Let me tell you a story, about the mighty condor.
There are only 72 left in the United States. Once a baby is born, it needs to grow. Hopefully it will last with the nurturing of its mother without being infected by lead in the meat she scavenges to feed it. Once that baby has lasted 6 months or so, it slowly, by itself, starts to jump out to the rocks close to its home.
It looks up and down, and all around. It learns how to flap its wings and contemplates its flight. In order to survive, it must take that “leap of faith”, knowing that if it doesn’t do it right, it will not survive the fall. But if it does, it could possibly live a long life, creating a family of its own.
So what does this have to do with you?
After a breakup or divorce, it’s a process getting back into the dating and relationship world.
Yes, some people try to rush it, filling a void with whatever or whoever comes their way. Sometimes, we are even afraid to take that leap again. However, what I know is this: It’s a process, and you are not alone.
No one likes to make a mistake. No one wants to feel as if they have no hope embarking on a new journey with a new partner. And some jump earlier than they should. We’ve all done that before.
So here are some helpful steps that will make that leap a little easier and more advantageous;
- Take time to go within.
After the end of a relationship, we feel a plethora of emotions, whether it be anger, sadness, or sometimes, relief. Allow yourself to feel them, but only for a limited time, because you have some internal work to do. Be your best friend. This is the time to get to know yourself and what you truly want. Some of us even accomplish our greatest achievements during this time. And by far, try to see how the lost relationship allows you the chance to connect with yourself again, making you evolve.
- Define what you want, and own it!
If you want to date around, that’s great. If you want to find a relationship, that’s great. Know what characteristics you desire in another. Know your expectations and deal breakers. Know that you are perfectly fine with not settling for what you don’t want or deserve. When you own it and stick to it, you can weed out those unfitted, or keep in those that are best suited to enter your life.
- Know that you’re not alone.
Enjoy family and friends. These are the people who will support you at all cost. Their love is eternal. One mistake we do make is lessening our time with them once we are romantically involved. Your family and friends are your roots. They are your center. You can’t fly without it!
- Take that “leap of faith”
Like the condor, you know when you are physically, emotionally and mentally prepared. Listen to your authentic self. The self that is confident in who you are, the self that knows its boundaries, and the same self that has evolved.It doesn’t have to be scary nor doubtful. So when you are ready, when you’ve connected with yourself, you’ll be able to soar!