Guys tend to have a bad reputation for caring about one thing, and one thing only. But even the biggest player in town soon changes his ways when he meets the right woman; all his personal rules go out the window, and he just can’t stop himself from throwing caution to the wind and giving away some serious “I’m into you” signals.
Are you wondering whether he’s thinking of you as “the one”, or just “the one for right now”?
Here are 10 classic give away signs that he’s hooked;
- He compliments your personality traits, not just your looks.
When a guy is only after a hookup, he might try to butter you up by giving some generic compliment that he thinks is flattering, but is dead obvious to you that it’s already been used on 50 other women (today). Instead of just saying something like “hey beautiful,” it’s a totally giveaway when he specifically compliments you on a personality trait like your kindness toward the restaurant server or your ability to quote SpongeBob (someone’s paying attention!)
- He’s never “too busy”
A lot of people today lead busy lives. With things like work, school, hobbies, friends and family eating up every second of every waking hour, it can be hard for a guy to fit a gal into his schedule. That being said, he will always find time for a woman he really likes and he won’t make excuses about being “too busy.” Which leads to…
- He’s reliable
Instead of the classic, “I’ll let you know”, response to your invite text, he is always reliable and punctual about getting back to you, and trying to fit you into his schedule.
No matter how busy he may be, he won’t take 12 hours to respond to your text or cancel on plans with you unless he has a very good reason for it, like a severe car accident.
- He wants to hang out in public places that require clothes
For this guy, “Netflix and Chill” is a thing of the past. If a guy genuinely likes you as a person he will want to spend time with you outside of his bedroom so he can show you off in any sort of public setting where nudity is unacceptable. Bonus points if said public setting occurs during daylight hours and doesn’t involve alcohol. Extra bonus points if the only kind of Netflixing you’re doing together is fully clothed Gilmore Girl marathons. That’s commitment.
- He communicates just to say hi
You know he’s thinking of you as something more if he frequently goes out of his way to send you goofy Snapchat selfies or even just a quick good morning text. Guys don’t go out of their way for things that aren’t important to them.
- He asks you questions about yourself
He’s curious about your career goals, your family and what makes you tick, and he really listens to what you have to say. He wants to know about you as a whole to see where he fits in, not just your bra size and how soon he’s going to “fit in” to your bed.
- He takes things slow, or sticks around if things move fast
He doesn’t pressure you into sex on the first date and then call you a prude if you say no. He waits until you’re ready because making sure you’re comfortable is more important to him than satisfying any sort of sexual needs. On the flip side, he doesn’t lose interest in you or call you a slut if you have sex with him early on. Instead, he admires your enthusiasm around him, and knows it comes from a deeper connection.
- He talks about the future with you
If he invites you to his parents 30th wedding anniversary in 6 months’ time, he’s really hoping you’ll still be interested in him by then. Anything planned in advice is a sure sign he is looking to get long-term serious.
- He remembers little details about you
You know he’s paying attention when he remembers minor details like your favorite song and then texts you some lyrics from it just because he knows it’ll make you smile.
- He straight-up says so
Guys are really pretty simple, for the most part. If they want something, they ask for it, so you can take anything he says directly to be honest truth… as long as it’s not part of a 2 am booty call text.
If even a few of these apply to the guy you’re interested in, you can rest assured that he probably won’t be disappearing any time soon!